May 2009 - A Powerful Technique To Increase Your Self-Esteem

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How’s your self esteem? Do you ever have thoughts such as: “I’m not good enough”, “I’m not smart enough”, “I can never achieve this or that”, “Others don’t like me”, etc.? Your conscious mind is really good at sabotaging your self-esteem with repetitive thoughts that seem difficult to control.

The good news is, you can take back control with this highly effective technique and increase your natural self-esteem. In your practice, you will be using the 3 positive feeling states of: acceptance, appreciation and esteem. You can use these feelings or states of mind to increase your level of self-esteem in any situation and whenever you want.

Here are the four steps to enhance your self esteem that will change the way you see yourself and the way you feel about yourself.  Initially, set some time aside and practice this when you will not be interrupted or disturbed. The more you practice this, the more powerful and effective it is. After learning this, you will be able to quickly practice this any time, any place.

1. A state of acceptance. First, access or think about an experience of acceptance of an outside event that you have no control over. For example, it might be the weather, something you heard in a news story, the price of gas, etc. Choose something you may not necessarily like but you can accept it. Now feel the emotion and notice your posture, your physical sensations and how you look. What are you thinking and how are you thinking it? Notice the tension in your muscles. Are you relaxed?

You will now amplify this state and emotion inside of you until it reaches 8 or 9 on a scale from 1 to 10. Let the feeling of acceptance build and then make an anchor by touching your left wrist, or whatever part of your body that seems ok for you. Anchoring is a form of NLP or Nero Linguistic Programming which is highly effective for positive change.

2. A state of appreciation. Secondly, think of an experience of appreciation for something outside of you, for example your child, a beautiful sunrise or a beautiful piece of art. In the same way, can you notice your posture and your sensations in your hands head and body? Let this feeling of appreciation build as well until it reaches 8 or 9 on a scale from 1 to 10 and make an anchor by touching the same part of your body as in step 1.

3. A state of esteem. Third, access an experience of esteem of something you marvel about, someone you admire, or something you honor and esteem highly. Notice once again your posture and the sensations in your body. What do you look like when you are standing in awe? How is your breathing? Let this feeling of esteem/awe build as well until it reaches 8 or 9 on a scale from 1 to 10 and make an anchor by touching the same part of your body as in step 1.

4. Apply to Self and Your Life. Now, you're going to think about yourself and touch the part of the body you selected in step 1. And as the process of "esteeming yourself" continues, notice how your thoughts and emotions change about yourself because you can now easily feel appreciation for your skills and abilities; you can feel more acceptance about those things in your life that you may not like; you can feel esteem for yourself as a human being.

Whenever you are tempted to feel critical of yourself, try this technique. You now have more control and can choose how you want to feel about yourself.

The truth of the matter is you are an amazing and powerful person with so many special gifts. Don’t let others, or your conscious critical mind tell you otherwise. You are important and you make a difference just being on the planet. This technique helps you know it emotionally, not just intellectually.

I hope you enjoy your practice and if you’d like to permanently clear out any old negative thinking or old unhealthy beliefs, consider coming in for a personalized hypnosis or NLP session or two. You are awesome!

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