December 2007 - Parenting Laws of Attraction
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Raising your children can be both one of the most challenging, yet rewarding roles you will ever play. The holidays can also add to a lot of parental stress. In all the years I’ve been a Hypnotherapist, I find working with children is truly a delight. Unlike adults, children are very quick to forgive and they naturally walk around in a state of self-hypnosis most of the time. Because of this, I’ve found children typically drop into hypnosis quickly and easily. Hypnosis is simply focused relaxation and children are particularly good at it because it involves using their imagination, and children love to do so. Also, children typically have so many less issues to work on than adults so progress is typically quick. Often one or two sessions is all a child needs to release an issue or a troublesome emotion. It’s also a great advantage to have a child release issues while they’re young, before it creates an adult pattern.
The purpose of this article is to help parents focus on the some of the ways our children are learning from us, both in beneficial ways, and not so beneficial ways. Children are like little sponges absorbing everything in their environment, both consciously and unconsciously.
Some of you may be familiar with the movie or the book: The Secret. (http://www.thesecret.tv/home.html) The whole subject of the law of attraction, or what you think about you create, is not new. It is in fact quite an ancient concept that has been written about in many books and sources; it is now becoming more widely embraced as more people search for ways to create what they desire in their lives. Hypnosis can help you or your children release old negative thought patterns and emotions, so in this respect hypnosis can truly help you with the law of positive attraction.
In this spirit, I’ve reprinted a wonderful article below by writer: Kelly Nault. Kelly is the author of “When You’re About To Go Off The Deep End, Don’t Take Your Kids With You”. Enjoy.
The Secret: Parenting Laws of Attraction
Your children reflect and respond to your feelings, energy and actions. You model behavior and they imitate you. Your kid’s mirror what is going on within you. If your kid’s currently have you in a “parenting deep-end” here is what to do:
“How do I contribute to my kid’s behavior?”
“Are they responding to my stress?”
“Are they asking for quality time I don’t give them?”
“Are your kids no fun to be around because frankly, you aren’t fun to be around?”
Then follow these four tips and fill your home with positive words and positive actions and enjoy the positive interactions that warm the hearts of your entire family.
Parenting Laws of Attraction Tip #1 – Be It So They Can Be It Too
What you do means more than what you say. Children watch what you do more than they listen to what you say. If you yell, “be quiet!” what are you projecting? A disrespectful tone teaches them how to treat and talk to you. Stop! Take a breath and make this commitment; “I am and act like a happy and healthy person”…then watch them follow!
Parenting Law of Attraction Tip #2 – Reflect Self-Esteem for Self-Esteem
You are your child’s self-esteem mirror. Your child seeks approval from you. Reflect positive feedback. When you mirror their worthiness, they feel worthy. Words encourage and even subtle put-downs can be devastating. Positive mirroring inspires your child to believe in themselves, follow their passions and live a life worth living. Reflect and mirror affirmative words and attitudes:
“You are brilliant.” “Who you are becoming is brilliant.” “You hold unique God given gifts.” “You are special.” “I am grateful for the joy you have brought to my life.” “Thank you for all you are and do for yourself and our family.”
Parenting Law of Attraction Tip #3 – Positive Focus, Brings More Positive Focus
What you focus upon expands. Focus and nag about what someone is not doing, and you attract frustration! Focus and celebrate what someone is doing and you attract harmony. Notice what you do like. One of my favorite parenting gratitude techniques is what I call the “Dog Factor!” You know how dogs unconditionally show us love and affection; greeting us a the door enthusiastically whether we are gone for 2 days or 2 minutes? Apply this approach to your own family. Beam with love when they come home or when they enter the room.
Parenting Law of Attraction Tip #4 – Discipline Can Inspire Good or Create Bad
Discipline doesn’t have to feel bad to be effective. Discipline based on punitive punishment, teaches kids to lie and not get caught next time! What you reap is what you sow. If your punishment focuses on rehashing all the bad things your child has done you are attracting more of this bad behavior to you. For inspirational discipline teaches the child to do better next time:
- Be respectful.
- Focus on the solution and how to do better next time.
- Ask what they have learned.
- Have consequences directly relate to the behavior
Let me know if you’d like to read more articles on the law of attraction.
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